Why we should forgive -Famous personalities about forgiveness

The attitude of forgiveness:


Forgiving others or yourself is a difficult thing to do. Being annoyed and angry with someone for a prolonged time isn’t beneficial for your wellbeing; to paraphrase Nelson Mandela, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to feel the effects. Keeping anger locked in can cause resentment, which may lead to you feeling depressed.

Why is forgiving important?


Forgiveness is for our own growth and happiness. When we hold on to hurt, pain, resentment, and anger it harms us far more than it harms the offender. Forgiveness frees us to live in the present. ... Forgiveness allows us to move on without anger or contempt or seeking revenge.

Why do we need to forgive?


Just because you forgive someone does not mean you are condoning their actions nor does it mean you think that person had the right to hurt you. Despite your forgiveness there are still consequences your offender must face but forgiving them releases you from the pain. ... You have the power to forgive.


What are the benefits of forgiving someone?

  • Healthier relationships.
  • Improved mental health.
  • Less anxiety, stress and hostility.
  • Lower blood pressure.
  • Fewer symptoms of depression.
  • A stronger immune system.
  • Improved heart health.
  • Improved self-esteem.

Try this approach to cultivating a forgiving attitude:

  • Understand that not forgiving someone else doesn’t actually hurt that person at all.
  • Be compassionate with yourself. If you’ve been ruminating over a problem for some time, perhaps now’s the time to let it go. You don’t deserve all this hurt you’re carrying around with you.
  • Feelings of hurt may be repeating themselves in your mind through a story. Try letting go of the story or seeing the story from another person’s perspective. Something may shift to help you to forgive.
  • Gandhi once said “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." It takes a strong person to face pain head-on, forgive, and release it.

If none of the above appeals to you, then you might want to take the advice of Oscar Wilde:


“Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.”

practice the following meditation if you’re ready to adopt a forgiving attitude towards someone.


  1. Sit in a comfortable and relaxed position.
  2. Consider the person who you want to forgive.
  3. Notice that the other person doesn’t experience these feelings at this moment, but you do.
  4. See the situation from the other person’s perspective.
  5. Finally, be compassionate with yourself.




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9 comments:

  1. I am very fortunate that I have always found it easy to forgive people. Forgive but not forget. It's so unhealthy to your mind and body to hold onto anger. Best thing you can do is let it go.

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  2. I really like how you set up this post. Providing the benefits to forgive, quotes on forgiveness and steps to meditation towards forgiveness. Are all very helpful, insightful and valuable lessons on forgiveness.

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  3. this is so true - forgiveness its really something we need to work on!

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  4. This isn't always easy, but it's a very healthy habit. Refusing to forgive hurts the hater in the first place, you will be trapped forever.

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  5. It's difficult, but forgiveness always heals the self in the end.

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  6. It can be very hard at first but trust me as long as you keep doing it eventually you will get use to it. I agree its for our own peace of mind.

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  7. Forgiveness is a great tool to peace and happiness 💕 thank you for sharing

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  8. Forgiveness brings peace of mind, its better to forgive than old grudges.

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  9. Forgiving may be hard at times..but keeping grudges wont do us any good. It only leads to heartaches and troubled minds.

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